5 Mistakes Made in Relationships

   









1.      Assumptions – Assumptions probably the top relationship mistake that one can make. Just the facts ma’am should be our motto. An assumption can become our paradigm when in reality it isn’t reality at all. Then the false reality could be acted upon and major relational mistakes can be made.

 2.     Caring Too Much What Others Think - Most of the time this can relate with assumptions, but it is much deeper. The core of the problem is we want to please man more than we care to please God our even our families.

3.      Listening to the Lies of Inner Self – This would be the lies that we tell ourselves that we are not a good spouse, parent, friend, etc. We all want to end our lives with the satisfaction that we were a good parent, spouse, student, someone who is really too good to be true. But the fact remains we will never be perfect. Yet, we beat ourselves up for not being perfect. If we were perfect our kids and spouse would not need God, they would have our perfection. Our perfection is nothing but an illusion and cannot be mastered because of our innate sinful nature. However, this fact does not mean we should stop trying to be the best spouse, parent or employee we can be. It just means do not beat yourself up about it.

4.       Time Management – Thinking we can somehow ignore we have 24 hours in a day and we can accomplish everything everyone asks us to do. When we do not fulfill these unattainable obligations we beat ourselves up, and can’t sleep remembering all the things we didn’t accomplish.

5.      Not Viewing Ourselves and Others from God’s perspective - If we would see ourselves as God see us and the way He sees others, the above list would vanish. We would love God, others and ourselves in the right perspective and the World would literally be taken from our shoulders and placed on His. So, the 5th mistake is really the first mistake.
 

            I am sharing this knowing that I have seen others and have done all of the above in most situations where there is conflict. I hope it helps you as much as it has helped me. Here is to a new outlook on God, others and ourselves! May our relationships increase with less conflict and more joy!

Thank you for taking the time to read my contemplations.

With Much Joy,
© Darla J. Smith
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